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Hi, Happy Lover!

I’m Tara Blair Ball, a Relationship Coach & Writer.

I’ve had plenty of shitty relationships and so have my clients. It’s now my mission to help you have baller ones (see my pun there?).

To help you do that, I write here on Medium as well as on News Break, Mamamia, The Good Men Project, Thought Catalog, and others found here.

To further help you, I also have:

Some deets about me: I’m married to baller Mr. Ball and get to parent the four best kiddos (one’s even brand new!). I smile all the ever-loving time and would gladly eat pizza every day of my life. …

and if he succeeds, he’ll hope to make us the executioner too.

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My husband walked into our bedroom and said, “Do you think there’s some truth to this election fraud stuff?”

I was confused. I thought he and I were both on the same page.

“What are you talking about?” I said to him. “There’s been no proof. He’s nuts. Even his own Attorney General has said that there’s none.”

“I watched his speech from yesterday. It was interesting,” he said. My husband was referring to the 46-minute address Trump called “his most important speech ever.”

It’s easy to be body-positive when you’re, by all accounts, thin.

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My aunt was, at her heaviest, well over 400 pounds.

She didn’t get there quickly. She got there over years. Every year ending with her a little heavier than when it’d started.

She once told us the story of how she lost a bar of soap under her own boob and didn’t find it until the next time she took a bath.

She was funny. She owned her body, but she didn’t love it. She felt it grew around her without her explicit permission.

Then she decided to have a gastric bypass. A miracle surgery. …

Haven’t you ever heard “true love stories never end?”

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As a Relationship Coach, I’ve had plenty of clients that were great at beginning relationships but terrible at keeping them. If they were marathon runners, they’d be the one who sprints the first few miles, walks for a few more, and then catches a taxi to go to the bar around mile 15.

The problem is that they were terrible at the middles of relationships, and relationships are built on the middles. …

Here are some tips you can follow to make you the best man for the woman you’re vying for.

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A fact that not many of us like to acknowledge is that if we want to date an amazing person, we have to be an amazing person.

In nearly every city, single men outnumber single women. Single ladies have the power. If you want to stand out to a very special one, then you have to bring your absolute best self.

But how do you be the best man for her and get her attention when you’re not the only one vying for her attention? Here are some tips you can follow.

1. Have a to-do list.

Organized guys get stuff done, and women are into that. The special lady who has caught your eye likely has goals and dreams for herself, and if she’s reaching for her dreams, so should you. …

Things men can do to keep and maintain their romantic relationship.

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If you love your car, you take it for regular oil changes and other scheduled maintenance. You don’t let trash collect in it. You replace its wiper blades and wash and wax its exterior until it’s pristine.

A long-term relationship needs to be cared for just like you would a car, and my husband shows me every day how to do just that. Love is a compilation of actions, just as all of the little things you do to care for and maintain your vehicle.

Let’s say you keep postponing an oil change.

“I’ll get to it tomorrow,” you tell yourself, but then weeks go by and you still haven’t gotten it done. If the oil isn’t changed, eventually the engine will become too hot. Parts will warp and wear out, and then the entire thing will shut down and need to be replaced. …

You might stand out to an awesome girl if you do these 5 things, gentlemen.

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When I was dating, I encountered my fair share of men I should have liked. They were smart and handsome and could correctly punctuate a sentence. Some were doctors, lawyers, or businessmen.

But whether it be through messages or in person, I started to notice patterns of why some guys didn’t hold my interest and why they probably weren’t holding the interest of other available women either.

Here are some things you can employ to make a woman want you instead of all those other guys who may be filling up her inbox.

1. See her for more than her looks.

Women are constantly judged and evaluated based on their looks. While she’ll likely still love to hear you compliment her on looking hot, she won’t find it all that appealing if that’s all you concentrate on. …

These questions can give you an idea of whether your relationship could be in harm’s way.

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The people who are in dysfunctional relationships are usually the last to know. We normalize, rationalize, justify. We tell ourselves that this is how it’s supposed to be, and we look to movies, books, social media, and/or other dysfunctional couples to compare ourselves to.

I should know: I was in one myself for almost 10 years.

At that time, I wasn’t able to admit it was what it was. Even though I was a Relationship Coach and often helping couples move past their own dysfunctional relating skills, I was blind when it came to my own relationship.

We need distance to judge things reasonably, objectively, and I couldn’t while living in that dysfunction day to day. …

When, after my separation, I felt anything but.

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Few people would consider using dating apps as a way to heal self-esteem issues, but after I began dating following my separation and eventual divorce, it became just that: a way to re-examine my views of myself.

I entered the dating app scene newly separated and freshly wounded after a ten year hiatus.

My marriage, which had never been great to begin with, had quickly begun to devolve after I’d discovered my husband was a drug addict. Over the course of nine months, I learned of two more devastating betrayals and had TWO miscarriages.

After dating someone who was just as much a liar as my soon-to-be ex-husband, I’d climbed out of the wreckage of my marriage and that relationship with my dignity and self-esteem in shreds. Not only that, I had twins that were not even two yet. …

Dating advice sometimes comes from the most unlikely of characters.

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When I was separated and beginning to date, I got a lot of advice from friends, co-workers, friends of my ex-husband, randos, family members, old-marrieds.

My mom, who had not been single since 1980, gave me her own set of advice as well: read Steve Harvey’s Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.

“I read it and talked to your father about it, and he agrees with Harvey completely,” she said.

Her giving me any dating advice was a little…precious. She hadn’t been single since jazzercising in leotards was a thing.

Regardless, I did read Steve Harvey’s book, and I’ll tell you that he actually gives some great advice for women seeking to find a long-term relationship with a quality guy. …

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