The current recommendation is women only get paps every two years. I mention it because a previous partner and I had both had an STD test, only for me to find out later that he’d been carrying HPV and didn’t even know. It’s frustrating because bareback sex is a choice, and one I liked to make when I was going casual with the right knowledge. Unfortunately, the system works against that (since, too, women might not inform their previous partners, etc. etc.). Let’s change that system, Joe! (also, fuck yeah, thank you.)

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