When I let my father know I was dating someone seriously and he had the chance to meet him, he simply didn’t show up, told me he was “sick” later, and then later admitted he lied; that he “just wasn’t ready to meet my new partner.” I told him how much that bothered me and withdrew. When I told my father I’d eloped, he said nothing. When I told my father I was pregnant, he said nothing. I never blocked him or my mother. He had just as much of a capacity to reach out as anyone. He chose not to.