You Can’t Be Happy If You Don’t Also Feel Shitty Sometimes

Studies show that emodiversity, which means allowing yourself to feel sad, angry, irritable, bored, and frustrated, is positively correlated with higher mental and physical health.

Unlike other goals, pursuing happiness rarely leads to attaining happiness (Schooler, Ariely, & Loewenstein, 2003). Instead, seeking happiness more often, ironically, decreases happiness, in turn causing a previous act of seeking happiness to prompt continued behavior devoted toward the same objective (i.e., acts of seeking happiness).

1. Feel it ALL.

You get to wake up everyday and be a goddamn human, and part of being a goddamn human is having the full human experience.

2. There’s no one formula that is going to promise you happiness.

3. Success doesn’t fuel happiness.

“Beware of Destination Addiction: a preoccupation with the idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job and with the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are.”

“Ever since happiness heard your name, it has been running through the streets trying to find you.”

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